Our lives are made up of spaces. Without spaces nothing stands out, nothing is individual. Spaces in time are essential to make sense for us in the world we have created. Take a moment out of time to breathe deeply, to go into infinite space where whatever you are concerned about does not exist. Breath-in space and breath-out space. For three breaths. When you come back the situation will have changed you will be in another “space” so to speak.
The more you judge the more you need to resolve the issues you are judging. In our lives with our mental check points on automatic we can accumulate a lot of judgements. I give a personal example of a simple judgement and the long-term consequences.
When you help someone while judging them, you are loving them conditionally.